When you have a sexual agreement in place which stipulates specific days for intimacy, you need to factor in the issue of breach. Something that happens quite often with couples, particularly those that have been together for a long time, is the lack of being in the mood. This can happen for various reasons such as being ill, having had a long, hard day and being tired from it, or simply having something troubling on the brain. Most of the time, it is better to try to get in the mood unless you are clearly sick
This can happen to any couple, and certainly doesn’t need to be the end of your arrangement. However, you do need to be prepared in the event that you or your partner cannot comply with the agreement. If sex is about the furthest thing from your mind and you truly cannot manage to get excited about it, there is another way to handle things so that your partner doesn’t end up with hurt feelings to go along with his or her frustration.
What is it?
It is called issuing a Rain Check. You have most likely heard the phrase “May I take a Rain Check?” many times. You may have even used it yourself on occasion. In this situation, you will be offering your partner a Rain Check for sexual favors at another time since you aren’t up to having sex when he or she wishes to engage in an encounter. These Rain Checks can be in the form of a homemade coupon book.
The terms
Now, before getting into how you will create these Rain Checks, it should also be noted that they can also be used as special occasion gifts or simply I Love You gifts, not just when you renege on your deal. Just make sure that you explain fully that these can be cashed in whenever the partner receiving them wishes to do so. That means, except in the most dire and unique of circumstances, that you cannot say no when you are presented with one of these Rain Check coupons.
Some creative ideas
As for creating them, all you need is a pen, paper and scissors or a computer and a printer. Then you can either write or type your coupons. You can offer such things as A Full Body Massage with or without a Happy Ending (Receiver’s choice), A Blow Job in the Shower (of anywhere else he/she wants to have one), Watch a Porn Movie Together, Tease Me for an Hour Until I Reach Orgasm, Buy a New Toy for Me, Tie Me Up and Have Your Way with Me, or anything you know that your partner enjoys. Remember that these Rain Check coupons have no expiration date. That means that if your partner presents you with one of these even a year from the time you gave them, then you must honor it.
These little Rain Check books can be a lot of fun to make and they also show just how much you care about your partner. Any time that you put forth that much effort into a gift for your lover, it will be appreciated even more. You can also bet that your partner is going to tuck that little nugget away someplace safe and sound to be pulled out when he or she feels like playing. Use it to keep the excitement going in your relationship and you will be amazed at just how much it will do to enhance your quality time together. You may want to use it as part of your Marriage Sex Contract or you may just want to do this for no reason other than you just want some spontaneity in your life.
If you are on the receiving end of one of these rain checks, remember to be patient with your partner. The fact that they’ve signed or entered into a sexual arrangement with you shows just how much you mean to them. You may be pleasantly surprised once you cash in that coupon.
If the breach is ongoing, you may need to renegotiate the terms of your agreement. Sit down with your partner and talk it over. He/she may be going through some rough times and you may need to even put your arrangement on hold. The key is to keep the lines of communication open in a loving way. If there are relationship issues, don’t be afraid to seek professional help.